How To Handle A Failed First Kiss Attempt
You’re feeling good, you’re talking to a girl and building some great attraction and then you sense that the time is right for you to make your move. You go in for the first kiss and it goes…oh so terribly wrong. What now?
The more you game, the more rejections and blowouts you’ll have. It’s an inherent fact that even as you progress in developing this skill set you’re never going to bat a thousand.
Firstly, it is important to remember that showing an extreme emotional reaction to something is beta. Nothing is a big deal in the world of pick up, so short of some major catastrophe, nothing that we experience in set should warrant a large emotional swing. However, there are times where not even the slightest emotional reaction can happen, and when the smooch doesn’t go quite to plan is a perfect example of one.
If your kiss attempt fails, the first thing to do is: nothing. Pretend like nothing happened and plow onward with the pick up. Barrage her conscious mind with anything to keep her from focusing on what could have been a long awkward moment. Basically, if you act like it isn’t a big deal, it won’t be a big deal.
The mistake that most people make is that they associate a failed kiss attempt with being low value but it is actually the complete opposite. If you don’t show an emotional reaction to what just happened, then that must mean that you are comfortable despite what occurred. Thus, she will infer that if you are comfortable with not getting a kiss from her, then you must be used to kissing girls because most guys would not handle a rejected kiss in the same manner.
Take the example of a man living on a deserted island surrounded by waters abundant with fish. He goes out everyday and although he doesn’t spear every fish he sees, there are so many fish out there that he never fails to eat well. Now, another man on a different deserted island is surrounded by waters all but empty of fish. One day he manages to finally spot a fish close to shore but botches the attempt to spear it. Obviously the second man is going to freak out when he fails to spear the only fish he has seen in months.
If handled correctly, a failed kiss attempt automatically flicks the preselection attraction switch. Furthermore, it highlights the qualities of confidence and being a leader. Nothing is worse than being the guy who doesn’t make the move, doesn’t…well…be a man. Attempting to physically escalate is far better than to play it safe all night. The latter will get you trapped in the friend zone or blown out entirely.
NEVER apologize for what just happened and absolutely never try to convince her to kiss you. Physical compliance is not something that you can convince a girl to do through the use of logic and reason.
An IOD can be used immediately to punish the lack of compliance. After recovering from the initial rejection, continue to build attraction because any failed compliance attempt just means that you’re not there yet. Stack forward, take a step back physically, and then reescalate as you begin receiving more IOIs from her.
A basic example of how the conversation might play out:
Renaissance: “I can’t even focus right now, I just want to kiss you so bad” (moves in for kiss)
HB: (turning head) “I can’t kiss you! We just met!”
Renaissance: “Yeah you’re right, we’d never work out anyway, you’re way too much of a control freak.(IOD) Oh my god, you wont believe what happened to me today…(DHV story).”
- Renaissance
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One Comment on How To Handle A Failed First Kiss Attempt
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Becky Wilson on
Sun, 28th Feb 2010 11:06 pm
You know, being a Bisexual Female, I have just as hard of a time
when it comes to seducing women as you men do. So, like you guys,
I can use all the info I can get. Thanks for sharing this ! I take
these tips for men & just gear them to fit my own situation.
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